I tailor treatment to the individual, drawing on the following evidence-based treatments:
This therapy is based on CBT (see above), which examines the influence of our thought processes on our behaviour and feelings., Schema therapy differs from CBT in that it focuses on how unhelpful thought patterns were initially established. If basic emotional needs are not met in childhood, a person will develop certain belief systems or “schemas” about themselves and their relationships.
For example, if a child is emotionally deprived because her parents are unable to meet her need for love, affection and nurturance, she may grow up believing that she is not worthy of love and nurturance from others. She may then continue to enter into unfulfilling, unloving relationships as a result of this ‘old’ schema. Schema therapy focuses on uncovering these unhealthy belief systems with the goal of changing self-defeating patterns. In this way, new choices become available and the individual can move forward, no longer driven by maladaptive schemas.
Object relations theory maintains that as adults we relate to people and situations in a way that stems from our early relationships with our primary caregivers. Therapy helps draw these early experiences into our conscious awareness so that we can see how these early experiences may be shaping the way we behave and respond to others. With greater insight, self-awareness and understanding, comes improvement in a person’s relationships with themselves and others
Psychodynamic therapy is a longer-term, more in-depth form of therapy, which explores not only conscious thoughts processes, but also more unconscious material. By exploring a person’s childhood, the therapist helps the patient to understand how patterns of thinking and behaving may have originated. . It is a useful modality to help individuals overcome childhood patterns that are impacting on current behaviour. Therapy helps individuals gain insight and rework, rather than repeat, unhelpful patterns.
The relationship between the therapist and client is also used to better understand why and how we behave. The therapist serves as a blank slate onto which the client can transfer feelings in order to work through them.
My preferred way of working is a longer term therapy to work with people being the most authentic version of themselves. In essence this is best captured by Brene Brown with the following quote:
“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are. Choosing authenticity means cultivating the courage to be imperfect, to set boundaries, and to allow ourselves to be vulnerable; exercising the compassion that comes from knowing that we are all made of strength and struggle; and nurturing the connection and sense of belonging that can only happen when we believe that we are enough.”
Brene Brown (2010)